Shaving the Legs

So, recently I had a talk with several of my friends on the subject of leg/chest hair. Many of the girls were of the opinion that chest and leg hair are now not "manly and masculine" as they supposedly were several decades ago, but now are gross. A couple of us guys looked at our legs for a second before coming up with a response. "Well, would you rather your boyfriend shaved his legs, since you think that leg hair is gross?" The answer was of course a resounding no.
"So we're not supposed to have much leg hair?"
"yes"
"but we're not allowed to shave it to make it the 'right' amount?"
"ewwww, no"
I'm sure you see the paradox.
In my opinion, it seems simpler for girls, who are simply expected to shave their legs. Yes, it is true that they have to put effort into it, but on the other hand, girls leg hair is standardized, and girl's are allowed the freedom to alter their appearance to the "right" one without ridicule. On the other hand, guys (with respect to leg hair), must innately have the "right" amount. If a guy decided that he didn't like the way it looked, he wouldn't have the freedom to change it (in this case, by shaving his legs), because of the general stigma. If I had to choose, I'd rather have the freedom to change my appearance, even if doing so was tedious.